Mood: Perplexed
I know this kiddo, who lacks assertive relational behaviors with peers. He wants to play with them, but most of the time can't seem to figure out how to initiate interactions or stand up for himself. He tends to direct concerns about the other children to adults, and expect them to sort out his problems. Recently he was the first to finish his work and go play. He ran off to his area, and then called out to me from that section of the room, "But, Muwinda, I don't got nobody to play with?"
Initially, I was a bit perturbed. I wanted to say, "like that's my problem? Deal with it dude." However, once I stepped back, I realized (as I often do) that this specific scenario applies to my own view on the world. This child was merely putting words to my current dilemma.
Three weekends in a row, I have been stood up or cancelled on by at least one friend. As a result, I've spent a lot of time alone wondering how to find someone to play with. Now, I don't have a therapeutic staff to assist me in this dilemma. This is especially problematic, because the social world of adults tend to be more complex, and I'm not entirely sure how to navigate it at this juncture in my life.
Kids can just walk up to one another and say "want to play with me?" after only one interaction. Should I try that? I guess I could roam the halls of my building knocking on doors asking for a friend, but for some reason I think it might unnerve people. Also, I'm a bit shy so it doesn't really seem realistic.
So, once again I take a cue from the children of the world. Can someone out there find a friend for me to play with?
No comments:
Post a Comment